I was reading my friends blog about the rape of the school girl in mumbai and i remembered the conversations i had with my office guys about the same thing. My friends anger towards the male friends who ran away at the sight of a police man, leaving the girl alone with a him is quite understandable. Calling that bunch of friends nincompoops is quite correct, but lets not generalize that to calling men nincompoops. Those bunch of kids(not men) are city bred and the worst of their kind obviously.
My colleague was saying that day, in a little accusing tone about the girl, that there is mistake on her side also. At first i sprang to the defence of the girl, but then i understood the tone of my friend was more that of a parent than of a guy saying that girls should stay neat and descent. The tone of a parent who finds that their kid has been careless and caused herself harm in the way. I remember the words of another parent, a poet of my place, when asked what will she tell her daughter, if she came back home raped by some one, and her words were, i would hand her a bottle of dettol and a towel, and would ask her to take a shower and forget about it. The trauma of rape is very heavy in itself and the victims should not be subjected to more trauma from the worries of their parents and dirty eyes of the society. But she should be strong enough to drag herself through the court procedures so as to reduce others chance of being in her state. That should come natural to a human being. Its time to grow up for our society. Lets save all our dirtyness for the rapist than for the victim.